The Endangered Singapore Smile

I brought the kids to East Coast Park to try out the Family Bike It’s $30 per hour, and we rented it from the shop at carpark E2. For the novelty, fun-factor for 6 people (including kids), and for the awesome steering wheels at the front, it was $30 well spent!

It was really fun for the kids, and really tiring for the adults who had to pedal! I was surprised that Ethan and his cousin, Gabriel, could last for an entire hour without asking to get out of their seats.

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Family Bike at East Coast Park, Singapore

 

Along the way, we cycled past many other cyclists – children, families, adults, older people. And we thought, maybe it would be nice to wave and say hello as we passed by!

 

In our brief and unscientific, highly biased social experiment, here are my observations on the Friendliest Strangers at East Coast Park

1. The Malay Family

They were always ready to give a wave and a surprised smile back to our little guys.

2. The Ang Mo (Singapore slang for a Caucasian)

Family, couples or children gave warm smiles and greetings. It felt like it was just an every day thing to them!

3. The Local Pre-teen Child

They gave shy smiles, but at least there was some response!

What about the others?

Those friendly park users were actually quite few and far between. Most people that we passed gave blank stares, or stared kept looking ahead, their eyes shielded behind reflective sunglasses.

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For decades we’ve had campaigns aimed at helping our stressed little nation find a little more joy and happiness. There was the 1996 “Smile Singapore” Campaign that gained international news coverage. The Four Million Smiles campaign in 2006, and more recently, the various initiatives by the Singapore Kindness Movement. It seems we still have some way to go if a gleeful child’s greeting is met with cold stares.

But there is hope. Just today, a few strangers made some friendly conversation with Ethan while he was out with me running some errands at the nearby supermarket and 7-eleven. They were genuine. They were kind. They spoke to him like they valued the opinion of a 2 year old.

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Stay calm and Be Kind! A poster by the Singapore Kindness Movement

So, if you were one of those strangers that smiled at my child that day at the park, if you are the man that helped him pick up his shoe instead of glaring at my barefooted toddler at the supermarket, if you are the uncle that took a moment to show him the interesting plant outside your store… thank you.  You made the world a little brighter.

Have you smiled at someone today?

Don’t let the Monday blues dampen your smile! 🙂

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Did you smile today?

 

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21 Acts of Kindness for Toddlers

No hitting. No biting. No snatching. No pushing. No pinching. No kicking. Share. Be polite. Wait your turn.

Have you had to repeat those words hundreds of times to your egocentric toddler? I have! And so, to challenge him to develop more kindness and compassion to others, here is a list of 21 things we will be doing this week, as a self-declared Kindness Week for the Lims.

  1. Give drinks to the construction workers outside our home
  2. Prepare a bag of snacks to give the other children in his playgroup
  3. Make a thank you note for his teachers
  4. Make breakfast for grandparents
  5. Choose a toy from his collection to give to baby Elijah
  6. Give daddy a massage
  7. Give mummy a massage
  8. Read the newspaper and pray for someone who was affected by a tragic event
  9. Pick up litter and put it into the rubbish bin
  10. Bring a welcome gift to any new neighbours
  11. Make a thank you note for the local fire station
  12. Make a thank you note for the local police station
  13. Make a thank you note for our helper
  14. Bring flowers to a nursing home and distribute it to the residents
  15. Bring snacks to the playground for other children
  16. Help to give baby Elijah a bath
  17. Bring some snacks and visit great grandma
  18. Wash daddy’s car
  19. Record a video note and send it his Godparents
  20. Make a drawing for his aunt who is not feeling well
  21. Bake cookies for his cousins

Do you have other ideas for Acts of Kindness that a toddler can do?